"a wife of noble character who can find?
she is worth far more than rubies.
her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
she brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life."
(proverbs 31:10-12)
it's really strange to think of myself as a wife, but that's what i am becoming... and i'm slowly learning what it really means. before i met my fiance, i have to admit that i didn't care much for wives. not the wives themselves, but the idea of being one. it seemed selfish and unambitious, because i had watched so many wives set aside their potential to live (what i deemed to be) painfully mediocre lives, serving only the interests of the family they created while the whole world went without the (whatever) they could have provided (inspiration, ingenuity, etc.) and on top of that, some of them weren't even happy.
it seems harsh, but that's really how i felt.
so where am i now? well... i know i was wrong. i still don't know exactly what being a wife is all about, but i'm ready to learn, and i figure the Bible is a good place to start (since this whole "marriage" thing was God's idea in the first place, right?)
I have been practicing a little bit...how's it goping with you?
ReplyDeletelet the dorm room conversation (via blogger) commense: so, i have no doubt believing that this is how you feel (and honestly, i feel like i've known this for a while...) i think that the book that i am sending will be really beneficial to you. :) also, when i married scott i kept thinking that when i'm 90, i will still be trying to find ways to be a better wife and love him more (i also feel like this about friendships and my our children (someday)). so no worries about being a good: friend, wife, mother, whatever. as humans we all have the potential to constantly improve, it is our nature.
ReplyDeletesometimes we do not know our own potential, but God does. if it is His will for you to be a "wife" who are you, lana jones, to argue that you are being wasted? cause, i really do believe that He has your very best interest at heart, and i really do believe that your potential as a wife does not change from your original potential as a child of Christ just because you get married. so here is a swift (but sweet) kick in the butt from texas! know that you are loved and being prayed for constantly! :D
I know I'm a few months late for this post, but here goes.....
ReplyDeleteI find it quite ironic that you say that you didn't "care much for wives." I, on the other hand, have always wanted to serve and love a husband and family. Close friends have even given me the nickname "mom". It hasn't been until recently that I have thought that I want more time so that I can understand and be more prepared for marriange. So, I totally identify with the want to read God's word to hear what marriage is supposed to look like.
Bri told me that before she got married she read Ephesians 5 over and over to understand what it meant to be a wife. She gave me this verse: "However, each one of you also must LOVE his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must RESPECT her husband." Ephesians 5:33
Ladies, how do we respect our husbands?
Always,
Britt